Some objectivity please? (alcoholism)?

Your effort to help this man is inspiring and I applaud you for it. Of course, you have your own life to live. I'm not a mental health pro but I do have substantial experience in this area so let me give you some educated layman's perspective on this. I think the fundamental issue is; is he going to drink, or is he going to be abstain from alcohol. I've seen some people change on this when they realize an important relationship is at stake. About AA and counselors, there is presently some big issues about the viability of these things, especially because of the religious content of AA and most counselors insisting their clients go to AA. A result is the development of several effective alternatives to AA that many who find AA objectionable can do well with. The biggest one is called SOS (Secular Organizations For Sobriety). Another is called Lifering, another is called Smart Recovery. They are all good things that often prove effective when AA is not. Google those things so you'll have some more resources to work from next time you talk to him. If he won't straighten out, then by all means - get on with your life. Sometimes it takes losing a relationship for people such as this to turn their life around. Good Luck Hindusufi